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My Experience with Vipassana Meditation

Updated on October 13th, 2022

My Experience with Vipassanna Meditation

How I got motivated for 10 days Vipassana Retreat

I was very inquisitive about Meditation. I could really never understand as to how sitting quiet in isolation could solve anyone’s problems. I heard about Vipassana, a meditation technique from a friend of mine, who had undergone a 10 days Vipassana retreat at one of the centres in India. When I enquired about it on the net, I gathered that for Vipassana, you have to register in advance at any one of centres in various parts of the world. Once you join, you cannot leave it midway and would have to remain in captivity for ten days till completion. You will be totally cut off from the world, will be required to maintain a total silence and live more or less like a monk. The daily routine would include only meditation and meditation and you will be sitting in a cross legged position for nearly 10 to 12 hours everyday.

It sounded very difficult but  when I researched on the benefits of Vipassana, I got a very positive feedback from the people who had done it. So after a lot of contemplation, I made up my mind to undergo this 10 days of prison.  I was expecting the Vipassana centre  to be like a monastery with only bare minimum of everything just to survive. However, I found the facilities to be better than I had anticipated, considering that they were free of charge. At the end of the course, if you wish, you may make donation for the centre to run future courses. After initial formalities, we  were briefed on strict code of  conduct and adherence to  five precepts: no killing, no stealing, no lying, no sexual misconduct and no intoxicants. That was the last time we were permitted to speak, as soon thereafter, we went into ‘Noble Silence’ for next 10 days.

Daily Schedule during Vipassana

4:00am  Morning wake-up bell   

4:30-6:30am  Meditation

6:30-8:00am  Breakfast break   

8:00-9:00am  Group meditation

9:00-11:00am  Meditation

11:00-12:00pm  Lunch break   

12:00-1:00pm  Rest and interviews w/ teacher   

1:00-2:30pm  Meditation

2:30-3:30pm  Group meditation

3:30-5:00pm  Meditation

5:00-6:00pm  Fruit and tea break (construed as dinner)

6:00-7:00pm  Group meditation

7:00-8:15pm  Discourse

8:15-9:00pm  Meditation

9:00-9:30pm  Question time

9:30pm  Retire to your room–lights out

Staying motionless in cross legged position became my biggest challenge

Our first session started at 4:30 am next day which involved sitting steady in cross legged position and simply observing our breath. Not being use to sitting on the floor, I could barely manage to sit in that position for about 20 minutes.  My legs started paining. After about 45 minutes, my back started paining. I took frequent breaks in guise of using the washroom. But there were three sessions of one hour each, everyday called as ‘Adhishtan’ where were expected to freeze in one position without any movement. It reminded me of ‘statue’ game we used play as children. I realised that despite my best efforts, my movement and frequent changing of legs continued. We were not supposed to open our eyes while meditating, but I could not resist opening my eyes momentarily to see how others were coping up.  My first day ended somehow. I had intense pain in my legs and back. Most of the time, rather than concentrating on meditation, I was mostly fighting a battle with myself on how to sit straight and steady.

‘Anapana’ Meditation as prelude to Vipassana

Every subsequent day became difficult in terms of sitting motionless in cross-legged position. For the first three days, our task was to observe our breathing and feel your breath going in and coming out and feel the sensation in the front part of the nostrils, known as Anapana meditation. I tried to focus my attention on my breath, but  my mind wandered all over with all types of thoughts.

Vipassana Meditation

On the third day itself, we were given ‘Vipassana’. In Vipassana, now we were to take our mind to all parts of the body, in a sequence starting from head, going down till tow and back from tow to head again in a very gradual manner. The concept was to take your attention to a small part of your body, feel the sensation in that part and then move your attention on to next part. In this process, you cover the entire body from head to tow. The sensation may of any kind: vibration, shivering, burning, throbbing, pulsating or in any other form.

Sense of Relief and Achievement on the final day

With every passing day, while my pain in the knees, legs and back increased and fourth day, I had a feeling of calling it off. But my ego and resolve and fear of being termed as a loser kept me going. After nearly fifth day, I was able to stay motionless for nearly 30 min without pain, at a time. My concentration had also started to  improve and I started experiencing bouts of quiet moments when my mind remained in check and did not wander. I started feeling myself in the present moment. By the ninth day, I was able to sit totally motionless for one hour and I felt as I had climbed Mount Everest. The worst being over, I  experienced  Vipassana for the first time. I could feel the free flow of sensation from my head to tow. On the last day, we broke our silence and could say hello to others and share experience with them. Felt that the effort was worth it and I would strongly recommend 10 days Vipassana retreat to  all who want to achieve peace of mind.

Concept of Vipassana

Our mind is in a habit of wandering. It either wanders in the evnents of the past or in expectations for the future. By observing the body sensations as they arise and pass, without becoming caught up in them, we make an effort to remain in the present. Vipassana  is based on the concept that your unconscious mind is strongly inter-connected with you body and is inseparable from it. Your body is always experiencing sensations. These sensations may be pleasant, causing craving for more or unpleasant causing aversion to them. Over a period these cravings and aversions results in creation of ‘Sankaras’. This  become a habit which leads to multiplication of ‘sankaras’ over a period of time. These ‘Sankarsa’  accumulate and get embedded into your unconcious mind leading to misery. These deep-rooted ‘Sakaras’ from unconscious mind control your emotions and behaviour. Your conscious mind has no control over them. Vipassana helps you to work with the deepest level of the unconscious mind.

When you sit quiet and start observing sensations in your body, these ‘Sankaras’ surface from your deep-rooted unconscious mind and appear in the form of  sensation in your body. Observing theses sensations objectively with an open mind and accepting them as non-permanent, results in these accumulated ‘Sanskaras’ to weaken and fade away gradually from your unconcious mind. So over a period, old cravings and aversions fade away and by not allowing any new cravings and aversions to be formed, your mind becomes pure. You get freedom from your deep-seated causes of suffering.

Benefits of Vipassana

  • My capacity to work has significantly increased. I don’t get tired as I used to, before I started doing Vipassana.

  • My requirement of sleep has reduced. I do not feel tired even if I sleep less.

  • I used to be very restless and short tempered. With Vipassana, I became calm and could exercise a fairly good control over my anger.

  • I am able to fall asleep within 20 minutes of hitting the bed.

  • My blood pressure used to be on the higher side. It became normal.

  • I frequently used to feel stressed under pressure of work, but Vipassana has helped me improve my focus and ability to work under stress.

  • I had difficulty in maintaining good inter-personal relationships. My inter-personal relationship improved with all.

  • I have found an improvement in my mood and feeling of general well being.

  • Whenever I feel tired or emotionally disturbed, I take a break and do Vipassana for 15 to 20 minutes. It always refreshes me and makes me feel better.

For anyone who has an inclination for meditation, I would recommend Vipassana as a comprehensive and a practical form of Meditation.

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Coping up with age after Sixty

Updated on September 25th, 2022

Changes in Life after sixty

Ageing is inevitable and everyone has to go through it. With improved health consciousness and medical facilities, the Life Expectancy has increased across the world and the definition of becoming old has undergone a change. Today, 60 is the new 40. One has nearly 30 to 40 yrs more to live after 60. With age one goes through certain physical, mental and psychological changes. One needs to be aware about these changes and accept them gracefully.  Enjoy your golden years of life by taking good care of your  physical, mental and emotional health.

Changes after Age 60

Changing Priorities after 60

So your priorities in life change after 60. Till 60, you are presumably employed and have a busy life. Your priorities generally are your job, career, health and your family, in that order. However, after retirement when reaching 60, your priorities change to Health, your post-retirement finances, living life meaningfully, staying relevant, being socially active and fulfilling your Bucket List.

Physical Changes after 60

With ageing, You will gradually start seeing changes in your body. Don’t get disturbed when you observe wrinkles, sagging of skin or shrinking body shape due to loss of muscle mass,  increase in weight, greying/balding of hair etc. There will be other physical changes too which happen gradually as we age like  painful joints, stiffening of arteries, loss of hearing and change in your vision.  Accept these changes positively as a part of your ageing process. Do your best  and take  care of your body by staying physically and mentally active.

Mental Changes after 60

There are mental changes too. You may realise that you are not mentally as sharp as you used to be. You may have difficulty in recalling names, recognising people and remembering facts.  Stimulate your brain by undertaking activities like jigsaw puzzles, playing cards, building your vocabulary, learning new skill, painting, playing music etc. Remember that mental health has an impact on physical health and vice versa. Use your  experience, knowledge and wisdom effectively to stay mentally active and arrest you cognitive decline.

Psychological changes after 60

Gradually, one also starts to feel the loss of identity, the purpose of life and how to be meaningfully and productively occupied.  The feeling of ageing with fear of sickness and health also start haunting, at times. The older you grow, the more isolated you become.  There are  times when you are anxious, worried and lethargic for no specific reason. Life appears worthless to you. This is when one starts having bouts of anxiety and stress which further harms both the physical and mental health.The main causes of these psychological effects are:

Availability of more time for yourself after retirement than before and the freedom to pass this time the way you want to do

Reduction in disposable income with stoppage of regular monthly paycheques and fear of losing out on finances

The realisation of the need to make your life relevant by being helpful and contributing to society in any manner.

The greater need for a fulfilling social relationship and feeling of being wanted.

The realisation of Living life Meaningfully with a Purpose.

The need to rework your Life-style-activity plan factoring lower income and increasing expenditure on health and wellness in future.

Desire to engage in productive activities so as to leave a mark behind when you depart from this world

What 60 Plus must do to cope up

Maintain a good Health

Always remember, you are an asset to this world so long as you enjoy  a good health or else you become a liability. Your holistic health includes physical, cognitive, emotional and spiritual health.

Keep a check on your Biological and Subjective age to remain younger than your age.

There are three ages, chronological, biological, and subjective or psychological. The first is calculated based on our date of birth; the second is determined by the health conditions and the third is how old you feel you are. While we don’t have control over the first, we have some control over the later two. You can reduce your Biological age with Exercise, Nutrition, Emotional State and control over stress levels. A positive attitude and optimistic thinking can reverse the third age. It  makes you feel younger. Lower ‘subjective age’  or ‘psychological age’ has a significant effect on your  physical and mental health.

Add balance, flexibility & strength exercises in your daily  routine. It improves your balance, posture, and the quality of your walking. It also reduces your risk of falling or fear of falls.

Always keep Learning something new

 Learning something new  adds value to your life and keeps you sharp. Learning builds your brainpower, keeps you sharp and extends your life. Every time you learn something, your brain grows new cells. It will always keeps you young, no matter what your age is. Your experience, knowledge and wisdom will decay if you don’t boost it by continued learning.

Monitor your Finances

Most retirees have mainly retirement corpus, pension and social security (in some countries) to live on. You may have income from any part-time job that you may undertake or rental income, if any. You have not only to preserve your nest egg but also make efforts to make it bigger through investment to last your entire life.

Be Relevant through Meaningful engagement

After Retirement, it is easy to while away this time by sleeping late, watching TV, doing household chores or playing with your grandchildren. These activities may keep you busy but will not give you a sense of fulfilment. So engage in activities which add value to your life like learning a new language or skill, starting a new venture or doing something which contributes to the community. Before departing from this world, you must leave a mark, create a memory or make as many people happy as possible.

Have a Good Social Life

It gives you a sense of belonging and makes you feel wanted. It makes your life worthwhile and enjoyable. It provides support and help keeping your stress levels in check.

Make & Fulfil your Bucket List

Make a Bucket List, if you do not have one. Make all out efforts to achieve all items in it before it is too late. Your list may include places to travel, skills to learn, people to meet, and doing anything else that matter to you most. Life is not endless, and you may not have the adequate strength to achieve many of the activities, if you postpone it indefinitely.

Modify your Life Style

Make a routine which balances leisure and entertainment with activities which give you a feeling of fulfilment. Your routine  must cater for time for your wellness activities, your productive pastimes, entertainment and socialisation. 

Exploit your Experience and Knowledge

Volunteer and use your knowledge and experience for the benefits of others. Consider activities like coaching and mentoring to help others. Your mind will always remain sharp.

Have a good night sleep

Sleep is as important after sixty as in childhood. You need 7 to 9 hours of slumber every night. 

Overcome the fear of death

by going spiritual. Spirituality frees you  from the psychological fear of dying which is a common cause of worry and anxiety.

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